a little birdy told me to

A bunch of people have become pretty obsessed with Twitter. I'm not sure - i mean, it seems to be facebook statuses without any real content, but we shall see. I have given in. I have created a twitter

http://twitter.com/shinymasochism 

so check me out

or send me urs so i can do likewise :)

also --- MERRY WINTER HOLIDAYS ALL AROUND 

The Cake Is A Lie. The Bisexual Is Not!

Let me start of by saying, Shiny Masochism - IT HAS BEEN TOO  LONG AND I AM SORRY FOR YOUR NEGLECT! 

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I have always considered myself to be a very open and accepting person. I feel that people in minorities such as the gay community always want people to be sympathetic to their cause - which is understandable - but are not always sympathetic to everyone else - which is hypocritical! I know when Stoga did its "Manifest" movement other agenda clubs badmouthed it, yet still wanted their issues to be taken seriously. 

I dont think that we can stand up and say recognize us, give us rights, accept what we have to say while we are also being intolerant of others. Of course I mean tolerance within reason. I'm not saying that we have to accept the idea of murder as good or rape as fun! I'm saying that we have to accept the idea of people as equal. We have to look at people as people, not as a race, a religion, an orientation. 

So it makes me incredibly upset when i here people touch on the bi issue. Let me first start off with my own feelings. I believe that bisexuality as legitimate as any other orientation. There are truly people out there who are attracted people regardless of their sex. And that is perfectly fine! There is nothing wrong with liking men, or liking women, or liking both or anything in between. There is, however, something wrong with the way that people have abused the idea of bisexuality. I know girls who say they are bisexual but really they just want to seem cool, they would never actually date a fellow girl. Girls who get a little loose at a party and kiss a friend will change their facebook to tell the world that they are bisexual. But again - they would never truly have a relationship with anyone but a guy. Bisexuality has become a facade for girls to make themselves seem cool and to turn a guy on. 

THAT IS WHAT IS WRONG. Why? Because this is an affront to people who really do identify as bisexual. People who don't see the barrier between genders as a fence to weed out who is ok to date and who is not. 

I also have met people who say that bisexuals should stop being greedy and just pick one or the other. The "you can't have it both ways" approach. Well sexuality is not about greed! People who are straight are not attracted to every single individual of the opposite gender and people who are gay are not attracted to every same sex individual. And of course being bisexual isnt about being attracted to EVERYONE. Its not widening the playing field, its just knowing what you like and how you like it. 

My point: People need accept people and throw out labels and their negative connotations. A person is not a stereotype and should not be treated like one. People should not have to conform to what the rigid society's idea of love is. 

I am a lesbian. I like girls. Girls girls girls! But, I have considered myself pansexual in the past. Which is to say that i am attracted to people - regardless of male, female, or other. I don't see the rigid boundaries of gender as a line of discrimination. When I look at someone I'm not seeing what they are or what society has said they are, but i'm looking at WHO they are. It is a heart and soul thing. I just happen to be attracted to mainly female hearts and souls. I'm perfectly alright with the idea of dating someone who is transgendered. One day in the far far future i might even fall for a soul who is male. But for the time being this is not something i see arising. My point is that I am open to the possibility of it though!

So bisexuals, don't be afraid of who you are and don't let people tell you to pick a side! Love isn't war and there should be no sides. Facebook girls - please don't say that you are bisexual unless you mean it with your heart and are open to actually being committed to someone of either gender. Lets face it, offensive lies and hatred don't turn anyone on. 

This rant has been sparked by an article from CNN which i have reprinted below. It can also be found here. 

Bisexual or lesbian -- please make up your mind

By Nikki Dowling

One of the first times I went on a date with a girl, she asked me, "Are you bi or gay?"

Lesbian woman wants to set some women really straight.

"Well, I'm still figuring that out," I told her.

Her response was: "I knew you were too good to be true."

I then fell all over myself in an effort to explain to her that, although I was unsure about how to define my sexuality, I was definitely into girls, more so than I'm into guys. I am not and have never been bi-curious, bi for attention or bi only when men are around.

Since then, I've figured out that I'm solely into girls. So I guess I wasn't too good to be true, huh?

But, alas, in parts of the gay community, being bi or being a lesbian who has hooked up with guys in the past is like having horns or an incurable disease.

This isn't the case for all girls I have dated, but some lesbians don't want to date anyone who has been near a penis. Ever. Girls who have always been gay and nothing else carry it like a badge of honor. And, frankly, I'm jealous of them. I wish it was that easy for me to figure it out. But it wasn't.  

I blame the bi-hatred on the rise of girls I will call "Facebook Lesbians." These are chicks you see on social networking Web sites and in clubs and bars getting touchy-feely with their platonic girlfriends to get attention from men.

They make being bisexual unacceptable in the eyes of some and are the reason even I can't say the word without putting air quotes around it. And, although for most of these girls it stops with a kiss or an innocent boob-grab, some of them actually identify themselves as bisexual, thus mucking things up for the whole gay community.

I have numerous female friends who think they swing both ways simply because the idea of kissing another girl doesn't totally repulse them. But would they have a relationship with another woman? No. So are they bi? I don't think so. 

One of my friends in particular finds it necessary to grab my face and plant a wet one on me every time she has had too much to drink. Often she gets the bartender's attention beforehand.

This pisses me off because it is both insensitive and hurtful. She's assuming I have no problem kissing her because I'm gay. But the fact is, I don't want to kiss her because she's my friend and not my type. Straight girls don't go around making out with their guy friends. (Usually.) So why the double standard? 

Luckily, I have met numerous girls who can commiserate. A lot of gay girls I know dated men in, say high school, but grew more and more attracted to women, until the thought of getting with a guy became repulsive. While I believe I was legitimately into dudes when I was younger, I no longer am and don't see myself ever going back.

I have talked about this with a lot of lesbian women and none of us can figure out if we were suppressing our true feelings or if the attraction to men was genuine. For me, growing up, there was simply no other option. I lived in a small, conservative town and that was that. You were straight or you were straight. 

So for all you boob-grabbing-attention-seeking-Facebook-lesbians out there, my message to you is this: Don't kiss me unless you absolutely mean it. I'll return the favor. OK? Great. 

BURN!

The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision.

BURN! 

Blunders and Aburdities

 Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.   Emerson, Ralph Waldo

Hiatus

I feel like i haven't posted anything on this for a very long time. 

That makes me sad.

Shiny Masochism - I vow to update you! 

Halloween, Everybody Scream

How did we get here?
How the hell...Pan left -- close on the steeple of the church
How did I get here?
How the hell...
Christmas
Christmas Eve -- last year

How could a night so frozen
be so scalding hot?
How can a morning this mild
be so raw?
Why are entire years strewn
On the cutting room floor of memory
When single frames from one magic night
Forever flicker in close-up
On the 3D Imax of my mind
That's poetic
That's pathetic

Why did Mimi knock on Roger's door
And Collins choose that phone booth
Back where Angel set up his drums
Why did Maureen's equipment break down
Why am I the witnessAnd when I capture it on film
Will it mean that it's the end
And I'm alone

The Road Not Taken

The Road Not Taken-Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth.
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same.

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.




*Today in philosophy, Mr. Keonig dared us to ask the question which path will we take? Will we follow the mainstream of life, blending in, never questioning what we are told. Or will we take this-the road less travelled- where the way is not always clear, where we make our own noise, where we dare to question popular belief.
Today, my resolution is to take that divergent path and to follow it wherever it may lead. Life is not always certain, especially lately, and anyone who knows me knows that I'm probably already a few feet down the less traveled path.
But today I'm taking a philosopher's view about this path and daring to dedicate my life to something different. Because to me life is a highway and I'm gonna ride it and every day's a winding road. My rollercoaster's got the biggest ups and downs, but as long as it keeps goin' round its unbelievable.